One of my greatest teachers told me once that mankind’s biggest addiction is not alcohol, drugs, food, or greed… it is CONTROL.
Over the years I’ve kept my eye out to see how that is true in my own life, and now, many years later, I think she was right. It’s hard to let go. We want what we want when we want it. And this is childish, isn’t it?!
If we’re always seeking control doesn’t that show that we have no trust? I think so. And since TRUST is one of my core values, I practice letting go of control. I practice trusting. And I ask you to do the same when we work together.
This week I found myself talking about this in a session. I was talking with a smart and independent cat who had decided to go on an adventure. His person obviously was worried about him and wanted him to come home already. And yet, he was out in nature and not ready to return yet. He has his freedom to choose, and all we can do is share our desires, send our love, and watch how things unfold. And TRUST.
When people call me they share heavy things, big things. Dogs who are not always able to interact peacefully with others because of neurological issues. Cats who have gone missing. Animals who are adjusting to family members moving out. Cats who have suddenly passed, out of the blue, without a proper goodbye.
These are difficult things for anyone to understand. With behavioral issues, there is often room for negotiation. We can share and hear each other’s perspectives, we can begin to understand each other better, and shifts can happen. Yet often we’re confronted with issues we can not control. I love helping people address these issues. We learn to look at it from as many perspectives and possible, and we work with it from as many different angles as possible. Our animals are free to make their own choices, and it’s up to us to honor them and trust as we watch things unfold.
As much as we can learn and understand, life is still a mystery at heart, don’t you think? The older I get the more I realize this is true. We can’t know everything, and we can’t control everything.
Are you addicted to control? I invite you to practice letting go with me and trusting. No one is perfect, but we can practice!